It’s a heck of a job description, I’ll give you that. Every day, all day, I listen to and work with parents. One on one. One (me) with two (couples). Small groups. Large groups. Really large online groups. I’ve been doing it for years. And every once in a while, something hits me about the … Shattering Illusions, One Parent at a Time.
Today, a little departure from my regular Visible Child blog fare: a “blast from the past.” It happened quite accidentally. I was looking for an entirely different blogpost to share here, but then I ran across this one, and hey, maybe sharing this set of ideas and reflections is my fate today. I’m a big … Methuselah Lived 900 Years
Parenting groups and coaches are a dime a dozen these days. There’s even a plethora of “respectful” parenting philosophies or approaches to follow, all of which have some things in common, and of course, some differences. There are SO many words used to describe these approaches: positive parenting, conscious parenting, respectful parenting, connected parenting, gentle … Visible Child Foundations 1: The What
Most of us have been in a kitschy little gift shop that had some clever little sign or button or tchotchske that said “What would you do if you knew you could not fail?” If you’re like me, it made you stop and think, at least for a minute. What a question. What would I … Paving the Way to Take Risks
Okay, folks. I don’t know if it’s the planets or the moon or something about the water or something else entirely, but there seems to be a sudden run on children peeing on the floor “on purpose.” Yes, I’m including all variations on this theme such as peeing in closets, on toys, on carpets, in … Peeing. It’s a Control Thing.
“So, when my child hits, I should block and say “I won’t let you hit?” Sometimes. It depends. “What if I can’t be there or I don’t get there in time? Should I tell them firmly that it wasn’t okay to hit?” Sometimes. It depends. (just an aside…do you think they don’t know that it … Hitting: It Depends
There are a number of terms and expressions that are frequently used in Visible Child circles that I find are frequently misunderstood or misapplied. With this new year, it seemed as good a time as any to offer a few clarifications and tips. And I just really like that word “explications” so I threw that … Clarifications & Explications – Part 1
It’s the first day of a new year and a new decade (though, being who I am, I have some issues with that whole rah-rah new decade idea, because isn’t every 10 years a decade, regardless of the year that you count as year one, and geez, other people assert that a decade doesn’t start … Get Curious: The Heart of Observation
Yesterday, in one of my groups, I mentioned my “Down the Rabbit Hole” exercise that I do in workshops. I thought I had shared it before, but it appears that maybe I didn’t. I’m going to do my best to explain it here, since it might be helpful to some of you…and it’s actually even … Down the Rabbit Hole: A Mindfulness Exercise
We’ve all said it. We’ve all heard it (oh, the irony!) We’ve all thought it. It’s one of the most common complaints brought to professionals who support parents through challenges. They won’t listen! How do I get them to listen? The good news is that the answer to this seemingly perplexing and persistent pattern is … They Don’t Listen!