Do something for me today.
For my heart.
It’s been a tough week.
If I’ve ever done anything for you, do this one thing for me.
Actually, do this one thing even if I’ve never done anything for you.
Because it’s the right thing to do. And because we don’t believe in “tit for tat” around these parts, do we.
I know you’re tired. Maybe you’re “touched out.” You have things to do. You’re processing the events of the week. You’re worried. You’re overwhelmed. You need a fairy to drop in with her wand and transport you to a week at a spa. I get it. I know. I’ve been there.
Do it anyway.
It doesn’t matter what age your children are. They could be newborns. They could be 40 years old. Or anything in between.
Here’s what I want you to do:
I want you to do three things today that communicate to your child or children that you really like them.Â
DO three things. Not SAY three things. This is something you SHOW, not something you TELL.
Three things that send the message that they are your favorite person. Ever.
No matter what they’ve done. No matter what you’ve done.
Careful. I don’t mean three things that communicate that you love them. Or that you respect them. Or that you care for or about them. Or that you are proud of them. Or that you like something they did. This is about who they are, not what they do.
I mean three things that show–beyond a shadow of a doubt–that you LIKE them. A lot. Like out of all the people who exist in this big world, there is no one you’d rather spend time with than them.
You know what this looks like. It looks like your best friend, the person with whom you feel safe and freely yourself, the person whose company is the opposite of stress. Being with them is a gift to yourself. You laugh, you talk, you hang out, you don’t talk at all, you take a walk together, you know one another’s thoughts, you rant at the same things.
You know. Someone you WANT to be with. Not someone you HAVE to be with.
Come on. You know what really liking someone is.
Do that. For your child. With your children. Today. Three times.
And no, you can’t fake it.
Just today. One day.
Go.
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